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Aug22
Are Gay Ketubahs Valid?
by JordanNo comments yet
A question we get all the time is, are Gay Ketubahs valid?
Some thoughts on that issue.
Importantly, some religions are centralized, top-down. Think the Catholic Church, starting with the Pope and working his way down.
But Judaism is deeply decentralized — and has been for thousands of years. Just remember the medieval rabbis: Rambam (Maimonides), Rashi — the great rabbis of the Talmudic era — each rabbi had a different interpretation. And each Jew would follow the rabbi he believed in.
We see this today, in every aspect of Judaism. Take our humor: “Two Jews, Three Opinions.” Take the number of Jewish organizations and groups and sub-groups and affiliations and alliances — the number of them is basically the same as the number of Jews!
The closest Judaism today has to a centralized authority is what the government of Israel says. And that is still very variable: for example, Israel itself only allows for ultra-orthodox weddings. Famously, the Israeli Supreme Court Judges get married in Cyprus because, according to the laws of Israel (of which they are on the Supreme Court!), they can’t even get married in a non-Orthodox way. So this is far, far from binding.
As a result of this deep decentralization, what matters most is, what your rabbi or officiant says. We’ve worked with hundreds of different couples, and have seen hundreds of different Rabbinic opinions! So really all that matters is the opinion of your rabbi or officiant on this issue. If your rabbi will oversee and sign it–then great!
The final point is, the most important observation is that the main use of the Ketubah is, if you get a get for a divorce. This is the primary situation under which the Ketubah is used and enforced. So here, too, keep in mind that for a rabbi to accept a Ketubah to use in dealing with the get, he needs to first accept the Ketubah–so it should be your same Rabbi. But hopefully, that will never happen to any of you, since hopefully none of us will get divorced.
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by Jordan
Here at Bagel we make sure to stay updated and active on the latest Equality Marriage laws, and perhaps celebrate a bit (okay, maybe a lot!) when yet another historical day is made and Same-Sex marriage is legalized. For those who haven’t read/heard/seen in the news or your twitter feeds, this past Monday New Zealand has joined in granting the most basic right and pleasure for two people in love, the freedom to get married. New Zealand is only the 14th country in the world to legalize marriage, but the FIRST Asia-Pacific Country!
Amidst all this excitement and revolutionary change, emerges the touching story of Lynley Bendall and Aly Wanikau who were finally able to tie the knot that same Monday. Not only was their wedding beautiful and full of joy, love and excitement, but all of this took place on a decked out New Zealand airplane. If that wasn’t already amazing enough, Modern Family cast member and gay marriage advocate, Jesse Tyler Ferguson attended and took part in their ceremony!!
They even put together a short video about Lynley and Aly’s story as a couple. We were so touched that we just had to share their story. Congratulations Lynley and Aly, and Congratulations to New Zealand as well! We couldn’t be more excited and overjoyed that Same-Sex couples have the freedom to honor their love and devotion to one another through the freedom of marriage.
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by Jordan
“Enter Shlomo Ashkinazy. A quiet but pathbreaking activist, Ashkinazy has counseled gay and lesbian Orthodox Jews about reconciling “untenable contradictions” in their religious and sexual identities. Most recently, he’s leading a video storytelling project for Eshel, the New York-based organization which advocates for acceptance of LGBT Jews in Orthodox communities.”
What’s incredible and wonderful is that, seemingly every other day there’s another article in the Forward about gay and lesbian Jews! They seem to very strongly support our rights. Go Forward! We love you! You are bringing our issues to the forefront of the American Jewish community more than any other media vehicle we know. Thank you!
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Aug12
Love + Ahava
by Jordan
There couldn’t be anything more classic than the Love statue in New York. It’s big, red, and completely romantic!! For those like me that are New Yorkers at heart, we totally hate on those people taking touristy photos, but secretly we all think the same thing: “I LOVE that statue!!!”. For many who don’t know, artist Robert Indiana also created a replica Love Statue in Hebrew, which says “Ahava”. We are so excited to show you guys the newest Love and Ahava Ketubot from This Is Not A Ketubah! Take a look at them here: The Ahava Ketubah + The Love Ketubah
Not really your thing? No problem! Check out our other romantically themed Gay Ketubot gallery here!
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Aug07
Landscape Memory Series
by Jordan
We are SO excited to be launching the brand new Landscape Memory Collection from This Is Not A Ketubah. This Ketubot series features various color palettes pulled from gorgeous landscapes throughout the world. The art work in this extensive collection definitely embodies the best of modern design and simple style — perfect for those LGBT couples that want something as contemporary as their tastes! Click here to see the Full Gallery
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by Jordan
Looking for the perfect gay Ketubah that will match not just your beliefs, but your unique style and “look”? Check out our Bride + Bride or Groom + Groom galleries! Each of these couples can be tweaked to match you both, as a couple! Wether your hair is shorter, eyes are bluer, or you just look completely different entirely we are completely flexible when it comes to altering and editing the design. After all a Ketubah is meant to be a symbol of your love, why shouldn’t it reflect you both, just as you are? Contact Us Here for more info or to get started!
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by Jordan
We’ve worked with many gay and lesbian couples, and — surprise, surprise! — everyone’s taste is all over the place. To update an old joke: two gays, three opinions; Two Jews, three opinions; Two Gay-Jews, and NINE opinions!
Our persona favorites, however, are the ones with a same-sex couple, such as this one below. These are unique and powerful and wonderful and really show off the couple, as a couple.
See our gallery of Gay Couple Ketubahs (groom-groom) or Lesbian Couple Ketubahs (bride-bride).
Any questions? Just ask!
